Did your ex girlfriend recently break up with you? It’s painful when someone we love doesn’t want to be in our lives anymore. No one can blame you if you’re feeling desperate to get your ex in your life. Perhaps you’ve tried calling or texting your ex girlfriend to no avail. If this sounds anything like you, discover below why texting your ex girlfriend can ruin your chances of getting her back in your life.
Whether or not you and your ex girlfriend decided to play the “lets just be friends” card, you are having a hard time getting a response from her and it’s driving you nuts. If this sounds anything like you, you need to know about the No Contact Rule and understand it’s essential to apply it to any relationship immediately after a break up.
Even if you and your ex girlfriend decided to be just friends, you need to apply the No Contact Rule immediately. You need to stop all forms of communication with her, this means no more calling, emailing or texting your ex girlfriend. This includes visiting your ex or “accidentally” running into her.
The reason why your ex girlfriend isn’t responding to you is because what she truly wants is time and space away from you to reevaluate her own life. The more contacting (including texting ex girlfriend) you try, the more you will push her away.
I know right now that you’re worried she may forget about you if you apply the No Contact Rule, but don’t worry she won’t. If you and your ex girlfriend were in a long term relationship together, it takes quite some time to completely move on from someone. The longer the relationship, the deeper the intimacy level was between you and your ex girlfriend. It takes time to build a deep connection with someone and it will take some time to move on from them.
Instead of texting your ex girlfriend, why don’t you focus on your own life. If you’re trying to figure out why she won’t respond to you and it’s driving you nuts, chances are high that you are completely depending your happiness on her.
You may not consciously see it that way but that is the vibe you are giving out. Constantly texting your ex girlfriend is giving her the vibe that you desperately need her in your life. Have you ever been around someone who was desperate? Being desperate is not attractive and will most likely turn her off more than anything.
Is there anything in your life that you could improve on? Are there any relationships in your life that you may have neglected while you were with your girlfriend? Could you benefit from losing a few pounds and toning up? Is there a job promotion that you’ve been itching to get? If there is anything in your life that you need to improve on, do that now. It will help you shift your mindset from needing your girlfriend to be happy to solely relying on yourself for your own happiness.